An Interesting “Gay” Experience

This year I once again attended the Dorothy Hamill Adult Figure Skating Camp, and my friend Cathy came over from England to attend with me!

This year I once again attended the Dorothy Hamill Adult Figure Skating Camp, and my friend Cathy came over from England to attend with me!

As I mentioned in my last blog entry, like last year, I am going to be writing more personal blogs during the month of December. This blog is about an eye-opening encounter at the Grand Canyon of Arizona this past October.

Once again in 2015, I attended the Dorothy Hamill Adult Fantasy Figure Skating Camp (a most wonderful experience) in Scottsdale, Arizona. This year, a traveling and hiking friend from the UK (United Kingdom), Cathy Swift, came across the Atlantic to attend. Since Cathy had never been to Arizona, we stayed over an extra four days and I drove us to some of the treasures of Arizona including Jerome, Sedona and the Grand Canyon. While at the Grand Canyon, we had an interesting encounter.

While strolling along the “South Rim” somewhat away from the main tourist area, we met another sightseer all the way from Korea. He initially asked us for some directions in terms of the right way to proceed, where the next shuttle stop was along the rim, etc. We did assist him somewhat and then chatted about other things – our professions, his time in the States, etc. He was quite impressed that I had received my MBA from the University of Chicago Booth School of Business, and complimented me on my niceness for assisting him with directions and intelligence for my educational credentials. I even joked about the awesome song and video “Gangnam Style” (link) which was a huge hit in the US and worldwide in 2012. And he continued to sort of follow us around to keep up the conversation.

My British friend Cathy Swift on the South Rim of the Grand Canyon, where the interaction in this blog took place

My British friend Cathy Swift on the South Rim of the Grand Canyon, where the interaction in this blog took place


I do not recall how the conversation turned to politics, but we then talked about the interesting candidates running for both the Democratic and Republican presidential nomination. I mentioned the candidates I liked because of their support for equality for all American including LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) citizens.

There was an immediate and obvious change in the countenance of the Korean gentleman! He asked if being gay or lesbian was not sinful given Biblical scriptures. I then started to share how there could be different ways of viewing and interpreting scripture verses often applied to condemn LGBT people. He then stated “I guess you must know more than me about this,” and walked away and avoided us for the rest of the short hike. It was quite shocking how his perception of me as helpful, friendly and intelligent quickly shifted to that of being an undesirable person.

My friend Cathy was shocked. For more than 40 years, she has been involved in professional and community theatre, during which time she, her colleagues and friends have interacted with countless LGBT people. She told me that she had never witnessed such an interaction before, and now she has seen first-hand how LGBT people can be misunderstood and treated as “less than” by others.

Yes, it is indeed sad that still in today’s world, people are judged based on their sexual orientation or gender identity instead of being appreciated for their full human qualities.

The Great United States / North Carolina Diversity Divide

Three recent events at federal USA and state of North Carolina governmental level starkly highlight a major divide in how the country and my state executive branch governments understand and value diversity.

US Vice President Joe Biden references the historic USAID / NGLCC partnership at an LGBT Pride Month reception at his residence.

US Vice President Joe Biden references the historic USAID / NGLCC partnership at an LGBT Pride Month reception at his residence.

First, two events in June at the USA executive branch level:

• On Monday, June 16, President Obama announced that he soon plans to sign an executive order giving workplace protections based on sexual orientation and gender identity (that address LGBT – lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people) for federal contractors. Link to article.

• At the end of June, U.S. National Security Advisor Susan Rice announced a new partnership between the U.S. Agency for International Development (USAID) and the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) to encourage and support LGBT business owners and entrepreneurs in developing countries. Link to details.

Second, follow these national items with an executive order issued by North Carolina Governor Pat McCrory on June 30th. In his statewide executive order #55 (link), Governor McCrory addressed equal opportunity for employees in the state government regardless of “race, religion, color, national origin, sex, age, disability, genetic information.” One glaring omission – nothing referencing sexual orientation or gender identity! It would appear that for NC State Government jobs, treating people unfairly is perfectly OK if they are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender.

What most of our country’s Fortune 500 companies and the federal government understand is that all people must be treated fairly in the workplace for all to work at peak capacity and to achieve the best results. Still too often in the United States, LGBT people are looked down upon, scorned, demonized or even bullied, and if any group needs workplace protection, it is this segment.

Sadly enough, many political leaders often speak of providing a business-friendly environment to help stimulate economic growth, but then at the same time fail to protect and empower all in the workplace. Three large employers in the state of North Carolina have already told me in my role as a diversity consultant and trainer, that they are having serious issues recruiting the best talent to their locations in North Carolina because of our lack of progression on LGBT equality and protections at the state level.

It is time for all people across all states in our country to advocate for the equal and fair treatment of all Americans in the workplace, both in the private and public sector, so that all can work at their very best and help grow our country’s economy and deliver government services more effectively and efficiently.