{"id":4758,"date":"2023-01-11T13:37:27","date_gmt":"2023-01-11T18:37:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.totalengagementconsulting.com\/blog\/?p=4758"},"modified":"2023-01-12T07:27:52","modified_gmt":"2023-01-12T12:27:52","slug":"the-first-blog-from-my-new-associate-deanna-jones-changing-narratives","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.totalengagementconsulting.com\/blog\/2023\/01\/the-first-blog-from-my-new-associate-deanna-jones-changing-narratives\/","title":{"rendered":"The First Blog from My New Associate Deanna Jones – Changing Narratives"},"content":{"rendered":"\"\"<\/a>I recently read \u201cMaybe You Should Talk to Someone\u201d by Lori Gottlieb for our book club. A fascinating book where the author takes us on the journeys of 5 of her patients (including herself). In each of these stories, we are introduced to characters that each have what they consider established truths about themselves. Through Lori\u2019s therapy sessions, she uncovers key parts of each person\u2019s established truth and how that might not be serving the patient in making future decisions. She helps guide the patients to see something they had not seen before. This is part of Lori\u2019s powerful message from her very popular TED talk, “How Changing Your Story Can Change Your Life.”<\/a><\/strong>\r\n\r\n
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Recommended Reading from Deanna Jones: “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone” by Lori Gottlieb<\/p><\/div>\r\n\r\nThis core of this message is that we\u2019re not reliable narrators of our own lives. Her quote from the book: \u201cthe art of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself\u2014to let go of the limiting stories you\u2019ve told yourself about who you are so that you aren\u2019t trapped by them, so you can live your life and not the story you\u2019ve been telling yourself about your life.\u201d\r\n\r\nAre you telling yourself stories that might be unreliable? Are there any unreliable narratives we tell each other as a individuals, a country or in our companies? Without a doubt we all find stories to make sense of our histories that influence our future decisions.\r\n\r\nI have always told myself that I was a strong advocate for those who are marginalized. Invariably, this changes my focus for the future and lessens my call to action. . \u201cI don\u2019t need to focus on that, I\u2019m already have it as my story.\u201d However, whenever I think of that image where we are all at the Pearly gates and our lives are reviewed, St. Peter might look at me and \u201cmeh\u201d. Yes, in all honesty, I was just \u201cmeh\u201d\r\n\r\nFor 2023, I want to stop relying on my inflated stories I tell myself. Our country, our community and more to the point, our businesses, need strong advocacy for marginalized groups this year.. In our country alone, over 300 anti-trans bills were proposed in 2022. States passed more than 15 bills targeting transgender people. Over 30 transgender people have been killed this past year.\u00a0 (Note from Stan – Link to my blog about corporations once again being called to take the lead around diversity, equity and inclusion)<\/a><\/strong><\/em>\r\n\r\n

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Deanna Jones, Total Engagement Consulting new Consultant on Call<\/p><\/div>\r\n\r\nI know our country can be better than this. What can we all do to make this a more inclusive place to live and work? Our call to action begins by examining our outdated narratives that what we\u2018re doing is good enough.\r\n\r\nDo you feel you or your company has some false narratives that allow you to be \u201cmeh\u201d in the DEI space? Is there room for you to do more? At the end of 2023, for myself, I want to know I did more, I hope you can find that for your business as well. Let this be our new and honest start to a better and more inclusive world. It all starts with our introspection. Let\u2019s begin a new story for 2023.\r\n\r\nHappy New Year.\r\n\r\n* * * * * * *\r\n\r\nThis was the first of many blogs that will be provided by my new associate, Deanna Jones.\u00a0 Link to my announcement of her joining my team.<\/a><\/strong><\/em>\r\n\r\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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