Happy New Year!! My top seven blogs of 2015

Happy New Year from Stan Kimer, President of Total Engagement Consulting by Kimer and aspiring competitive adult figure skater!

Happy New Year from Stan Kimer, President of Total Engagement Consulting by Kimer and aspiring competitive adult figure skater!

I had some much fun looking at my website statistics the past two years and listing my top seven most read blogs of the year that I decided to now make this an annual New Year’s feature. I normally blog about my two areas of consulting a few times each month: Diversity with a specialization in the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) workplace and marketplace; and career and skills development based on my innovative Total Engagement Career Mapping process. And once in a while I throw in a more personal blog or rant about something that is irking me. (I plan on 3 rants in January so be looking for them.)

Here are the “Top 7 of 2015” in reverse order:

7. The seventh most read blog was actually published at the end of 2011; “The End of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell – One Year Later.” I summarize about how all the horrible things some detractors predicted never happened, but instead the removal of the ban contributed to a fully open, accepting and diverse environment with everyone performing and contributing at their peak.

6. My most popular blog of 2013 was actually googled quite a lot and finished as number 3 in 2014 and number 6 this year: “Five Common Misconceptions about Gay People.”

5. From March, “Religious Freedom Restoration Act – Discriminatory, Unnecessary and Harmful.” A bill was filed in the North Carolina state legislature similar to the earlier one signed by the Indiana Governor that caused all kinds of back lash. Fortunately, it was withdrawn and never voted upon.

4. After the US Supreme Court made marriage for same gender couples available nationwide in late June, I wrote, “Congratulations on Your Wedding, Condolences on Losing Your Job.” Though now all couples can marry, an LGBT person can still be fired in a majority of US states simply for being a gay or transgender person.

3. A personal blog I published at the end of 2014 finished 3rd, “Finding A New Passion at Age 59.” I share my journey of actually getting on the ice to start figure skating at age 59, and the absolute joy of discovering a new passion. Getting older does not mean I can’t embark on new life adventures!

2. Also from June, I wrote a follow on blog to one in May about a rural NC teacher who read a book about two princes getting married to address bullying and gay slurs in his class, “This Black Gay Third Grade Teacher Under Fire Should be North Carolina’s Teacher of the Year!”

1. And the top most read blog was also the top blog in 2014 and was actually published way back in 2011! As many people search for online resources about diversity training, they found and read my 2011 blog “Three Components of Diversity and Inclusion Training,” where I discuss the three major components required for diversity training and exactly who within an enterprise should be trained. I have also updated that blog to include links to more resources including to a new blog sharing the sample contents of diversity and inclusion training.

Thanks to all the readers who enjoy and share my blogs. In 2016, if you want to be notified each time I do publish, you can like my business facebook page (Link), or if you subscribe to my monthly e-newsletter, I include a short summary and links to the past month’s writings.

Wishing all my readers a wonderful 2016 filled with much contentment and success!

For LGBT Pride Month (JUNE!) – Being a REAL Ally!

IMPORTANT NOTE: Lots of Useful and Interesting Links at the bottom of the blog! Check them out.

Traditionally, June is LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) Pride Month commemorating the “Stonewall Rebellion” in Greenwich Village, New York in late June 1969. Led by a set of brave drag queens, patrons of the Stonewall Tavern boldly stood up to police harassment.
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To supplement the materials I provided in past years (see links at bottom of blog), this year I want to discuss the importance of “allies” for and within the LGBT community. Allies can be “heterosexual” people, LGB taking action as allies for trans folks, or LGBT acting as allies across other dimensions of diversity like age or race.

Webster’s dictionary defines an ally as “one that is associated with another as a helper.” What a great definition that goes well with the graphic I created for this blog! A true ally-helper is much more than a person who says they support someone; they go beyond that to take some kind of action to help their associates. According to Friendfactor, one of the leading non-profits in the US today working to educate and activate LGBT allies, 77% of Americans verbally state that they support LGBT inclusion, but a much smaller number, 14%, actually do something about it.

Some actions you as an ally can take:
• Support your LGBT friends by including them in your social activities and treating same-gender couples the same as your heterosexual coupled friends.
• Use inclusive, non-gender specific language like partner or spouse when describing your significant other and asking about theirs, to signal that you’re supportive.
• When you hear someone use a derogatory slur or make a stereotype about LGBT people, ask them why they think so and start a conversation about how they may feel if that slur or stereotype was made about them.
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• Attend rallies and community activities advocated for LGBT equality, speak out as a straight person and even carry a sign or banner (see photo).

Finally engage with Friendfactor, contact [email protected] for more info on building an active ally program at your workplace or school. Visit www.friendfactor.org for their excellent ally resources. And consider supporting or attending Friendfactor’s 1st Annual Ally Challenge Awards Dinner in San Francisco on July 26.

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Here are some additional past blogs that can serve as LGBT Pride Month Resources:

LINK: Five things to never say to gay people

LINK: Five common misconceptions about gay people

LINK: Five Heroes of the early US Gay Rights Movement

LINK: Five Ways CEOs Can Show Support for LGBT Diversity

A Guest Blog: LGBT Gay Diversity in Direct Sales

LINK: Four Quick Points around LGBT Economic Development

LINK: The Intersection of LGBT and Aging

LINK: LGBT and Housing Issues